Simplifying Your Relationships
It might be unromantic to talk about simplifying your relationships as if it were as easy as cleaning your closet, but relationships are primarily about the time you spend with your loved ones are just like other time management issues, they can be simplified.
Time is the most precious gift that you can give to the people in your life. Plus, you can’t get it back once given. Sometimes we forget why we are in relationships with people, especially people that ask for a lot of our time or worse yet we don’t even like anymore!
Q: How can you tell if a relationship has gotten too complex?
A: I call it the “Smile Rule”. If thinking about that person makes you smile then there’s no problem, but if instead you let out a big “Sigh” then that’s an instantaneous sign you need to simplify that relationship.
Q: What are some ways to simplify a relationship?
A: In every relationship the common denominator is you. You need to start by identifying what’s important to you. If you have values or goals that this relationship does not support, then you must decide if the relationship is worth keeping. If it is, then communicate what’s important to you, what you value about the relationship and how they can support you. You also need to be prepared to set firm boundaries to stay true to your values or on track with your goals.
For example, if you are dieting and a good friend keeps inviting you out to happy hours, where you know you might be at risk for overindulging, you can follow these steps to manage that relationship. Remind your friend that being healthy is important to you and ask them to support your efforts and invite you for a walk in the park instead.
Q: What are some simple things we can do every day to enhance our relationships?
A: Make time and if necessary put it on your calendar. Remember why this person is important to you and tell them. Relationships require care and feeding as I like to call it. They can get complex from neglect too, so let the people in your life know how you feel!
